I hope she did forward it to his mom, and his entire family!!! Don't know why men think that showing their junk is at all a turn on. I have never met any woman who thought "Wow, what a great cock!! I should drop to his feet and be grateful" Most of us just think...... "thats it??"
Seriously.. I'm a woman and found the woman to be a witch with a capital B. I mean, again it didn't hurt her.. all she had to say was no. Some women these days just overreact to a whole lot of nothing!
Yep, mom should see that, it will teach him a lesson. he has to learn the consequences of his actions. Imagine a child would have picked up the phone, or would have been standing next to the girl, looking at the screen...Imagine this girl there is your sister, your daughter, your girlfriend, your mother, your cousin...
I just thought it was absolutely hilarious seeing the about-face in his demeanor. From smug and juvenile to serious and juvenile... no, he didn't want mommy to see the picture he sent to a woman he didn't know, but that makes them even because she didn't want him to send it to her in the first place. What a douche.
1. The girls shouldn't be flashing their tits all over the place, it makes the dumb ass guys think that this kind of behavior is OK. 2. Just because you like seeing little boy cocks on your phone, doesn't mean everyone else does too. 3. She told him she didn't like it & instead of apologizing he called her a prude. 4. He's a dumb ass because she had to correct his grammar multiple times. 5. She should send it to his mom. 6. If girls are showing their tits/asses/vaginas all over the internet, then the guy is well within his rights to send the photos & screen shots to her dad, maybe she'll learn.. 7. If either or both parties were under the legal age of consent in their state, they are, by definition, guilty of distributing child pornography...
Not that he should've sent her a picture like that unless she specifically asked, but how does that perpetuate the rape culture? He didn't go and attack her whilst naked. I think she might've gone a little bit overboard there.
It is just as if your were walking in a park and some guy opens his trech coat and shows you their naked body. Exhibitionists are sick people, they like to intimidate others by showing them their genitals, they enjoy showing themselves and seeing the looks on the face of their victims. Those people are convinced they have the right to do that, so what stops them from going further?
If they ever get flashed like that in public, I tell my female friends to kick the guy in the balls and start screaming like mad. Bet they don't try that again.
Anonymous #1, see response above. Rape culture doesn't mean that he committed rape. It's about a culture (including our culture) being more and more accepting of the types of behaviors that lay the groundwork. If harassment is OK then naked pics must ok, then unwanted groping must be ok, then joking about passed out girls deserving to get raped must be ok, then actually raping must be ok. It's normalizing behaviors that shouldn't be normalized. We should be offended by certain things because we are humans and should be looking out for each other.
There is a difference between rape and rape culture. Rape is the act of forcing physical, sexual contact on a person (different states have different definitions of what those types of contact are). Rape Culture is the societal behavior that supports people who rape, either by encouraging it or condoning it as ok, or even funny, or punishing people who are forced into non-consensual sexual interactions. So this was definitely a situation of rape culture rearing its ugly head.
Indecent exposure is a crime, right? If she didn't ask to see it, he shouldn't have sent it to her. Also, just because there are girls out there showing off their naughty bits in public (oh yeah, classy) doesn't mean this girl does.
If anyone ever sent me that, I'd report them immediately. It's not OK to send that shit to someone you don't know. I love this woman's response, and I hope his Mom read him the riot act.
Anonymous #1, I think you are his friend to have that kind of thoughts about that conversation. I agree with Uncle Raf, YOUR MOM should see what you posted so she can see what a retarded son (assuming that you are a boy from that kind of comment) she is rasing. ;)
how does someone go from "how is your day going? Is it raining in long island yet" to showing a pic of their bits and pieces. it makes no difference, in my book, whether she is a prude or a porn star, that is harassment. there is nothing in the conversation that indicated, in any way shape or form, that he might be intending to send a pic, of any kind, nor that she would be open to receiving it.
I agree 100% with the opinions expressed by Judith
So, some moron sends a naked pic to a woman with whom he obviously must be chatting on some dating site or app. He doesn't realize he's being a moron. The woman then decides that some other woman should suffer the same fate she did because it will make her feel vindicated over said moron. And none of you has a problem with this? It's wrong for him to send the pic but not her? Double standard much?!? Sending someone a naked picture is NOT rape or even close (I will not use her buzz word). She's being just as much of an asshole. First in using the word rape solely for it's shock value. Then, in sending the same picture that so offended her to the moron's mother. The act of rape is a heinous crime. To compare some narcissistic idiot's sending of a picture to a woman he was obviously trying (however crudely) to impress with the physical act of violently forcing yourself sexually on another just shows you're insensitive to those who've suffered such a tragic defilement.
You know, the comment says "A dating app". This was not just a phone text message. These kinds of things are where people meet, frequently for the purpose of sex. While it might have been a bit of a jump from the weather to his penis, she over-reacted.
On top of that, she obviously knew enough about the guy, his last name, etc, to be able to find his mom on FB. So this wasn't a first time meeting, either.
While I don't condone just throwing your naked picture out there, she over-reacted. She should have just told him why she didn't like that, and stopped talking to him.
She didn't say he raped her. She said it's part of rape culture. That is the culture in which men can say and do anything, and the more they get away with, the more they try to get away with, and it escalates and builds, and then.... some guys see that all this crudity, rudeness, meanness, harassment, etc. are ok so forcing sex on a woman must be ok too. That's what rape culture is.
Seriously? ... You think it's okay? ... Imagine if someone sent a pic of their junk to your daughter or sister ..... ya know what, scratch that: YOU would probably send pictures of your junk to your sister.
The guy is wayyyyyy too forward, sick and he needs to be reported. Forwarding the conversation to the Phone Carrier and filing a report with the local police should start the ball rolling on dealing with his dumb ass. HOWEVER, forwarding this picture to his Mother is wrong. I cannot believe the sideways logic you would have to use to support sending something he sent you, which offended your senses and is a form of 'rape', to his innocent Mother. Then I see the, if anyone I don't know sent ME this stuff.... YOU don't KNOW his mother, so WHY would you even think it'd be ok? IF you really wanted to embarrass him, I believe forwarding the CONVO part to his friends and family (including his mom) would A) embarrass him and B) shame his friends in to straightening his ass out, but the picture?? Just BOOM, here mom, here's a nude picture of your son? Really? All you are going to really do is scar the mom, possibly for life. If he's an adult, what IS she really going to do? IF YOU MUST, shoot here a copy of the blurred out wiener for pete's sake...
Any woman that thinks this is no big deal, having a guy you don't know sending you naked pictures obviously have no self esteem, no pride in yourself as a woman. And not an ounce of class. And any guy that believes that a photo of his penis is a a turn on to a woman you apparently know nothing about a real woman. I'm sure that any woman you have had any luck with was a small.
i don't why everyone is over reactin about this the bitch was bein a prune. maybe sendin the pic on the first day textin was a bad decision wait a few days to you get a feel of what type of person you're sendin your shit to might be wiser. lol but nothin wrong with it.
Why are you being so hostile towards a woman you have no knowledge of. She's not a bitch, she's a bystander. She didn't ask for the cock shot, it was shoved in her face. You want some guys cock shoved in your face? I didn't think so. Also, the word is prude, not prune. A prune is a dessicated plum. Sending a shot of your junk to a woman you have no relationship with is stupid and smarmy. If she wants it, fine. That's not a problem. If it was unsolicited, that's definitely a problem. Let's turn it around. Suppose some chick you find totally disgusting sends you a crotch shot with lewd text- how are you going to respond to that? Are you cool with that, is that ok in your book? Remember your words, "nothing wrong with it". It's in the eye of the beholder. Expand your mind and mature.
Please read the numerous responses above which explain the difference between "rape" and "rape culture". The woman mentioned "rape culture" not "rape". There is a difference, so please learn about it, and join the conversation.
Indirectly, it does. The personality who thinks it's ok to send an unsolicited junk shot, who doesn't get a negative response, may well go on to further unsolicited, unwanted behavior. That could be verbal, visual or even physical. THAT is what is called "rape culture". A culture that makes all this other behavior "OK" so rape must be "OK" too.
how totally bizarre to have come across this post of a subject that is causing me some 'angst' at the moment...I'm an older woman who has just recently gotten back into the dating scene and can't believe the amt of guys that a) want and do send u their cock shots..and in the middle of a convo ffs ! b) complain that its the 1st thing girls ask for on introduction and they get all bent out of shape abt it....lol its funny to hear about but when its not asked for DON'T do it and girls..please..at least wait till you know them a bit better...30 minutes isn't too long to wait ...have a good one and chill out abt it
The trouble is, when you join a dating site, unfortunately, you open yourself up to this sort of thing. Is it right? No. Should actions be taken, yes. Girls, be smart. Chances of finding a decent man online are slim to none. Don't expose yourself to the freaks and weirdo's. There are a million places to go to seek out good men, find one and go with it.
Psst, when you put the onus on the victim to take precautions for themselves that is promoting rape culture. Instead you should be teaching men not to send unsolicited pictures of their dicks, or to stop when someone asks them to.
For the people who are commenting, it's just a picture. For some yes it's about the picture, however for most it's about his attitude after. Instead of a simple apology and backing down, he kept on about it just being a picture, didn't she like it, stop being a prude, etc. Being on a dating site, looking for a date, that MAY lead to sex is not asking to have someone belittle you.
If you have the option to open or reject a picture then it can't be harassment. I don't have an iphone, but I know I have the option to reject pictures on my droid. If you accept a picture from someone you don't know, you're giving up your right to claim harassment in any way. Regardless, I don't agree with sending out random cock shots to people.
forward to Mom Yes
ReplyDeleteYES, he should be careful if he doesn't want mom to see what he does.
DeleteI hope she did forward it to his mom, and his entire family!!! Don't know why men think that showing their junk is at all a turn on. I have never met any woman who thought "Wow, what a great cock!! I should drop to his feet and be grateful" Most of us just think...... "thats it??"
ReplyDeleteGood for her; bad for him for being stupid.
ReplyDeleteSeriously.. I'm a woman and found the woman to be a witch with a capital B. I mean, again it didn't hurt her.. all she had to say was no. Some women these days just overreact to a whole lot of nothing!
ReplyDeleteI might have agreed with you if he would have stopped when she said stop, but he pushed it. Just like No means No.
DeleteUmm, she DID say no!
DeleteIf she doesnt know him.. and hes a "random" guy... then how did they have eachothers number. Yea, thats what i thought
DeleteThe only bitch here is you. You're exactly the problem with people not respecting other people's boundaries.
DeleteHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHHHAH Serves him right. No one wants an unsolicited cock shot. if a girl wants to see it you will bloody well know.
ReplyDeleteDouchebag? Yep! Mom deserves to get that? I seriously doubt it. Leave his Mom out of it. Just saying.
ReplyDeleteYep, mom should see that, it will teach him a lesson. he has to learn the consequences of his actions. Imagine a child would have picked up the phone, or would have been standing next to the girl, looking at the screen...Imagine this girl there is your sister, your daughter, your girlfriend, your mother, your cousin...
DeleteI just thought it was absolutely hilarious seeing the about-face in his demeanor. From smug and juvenile to serious and juvenile... no, he didn't want mommy to see the picture he sent to a woman he didn't know, but that makes them even because she didn't want him to send it to her in the first place. What a douche.
ReplyDelete1. The girls shouldn't be flashing their tits all over the place, it makes the dumb ass guys think that this kind of behavior is OK.
ReplyDelete2. Just because you like seeing little boy cocks on your phone, doesn't mean everyone else does too.
3. She told him she didn't like it & instead of apologizing he called her a prude.
4. He's a dumb ass because she had to correct his grammar multiple times.
5. She should send it to his mom.
6. If girls are showing their tits/asses/vaginas all over the internet, then the guy is well within his rights to send the photos & screen shots to her dad, maybe she'll learn..
7. If either or both parties were under the legal age of consent in their state, they are, by definition, guilty of distributing child pornography...
Why does everyone (boys & girls alike) think that sending naked pictures of themselves via cell phone or over the internet is acceptable behavior???
ReplyDeleteNot that he should've sent her a picture like that unless she specifically asked, but how does that perpetuate the rape culture? He didn't go and attack her whilst naked. I think she might've gone a little bit overboard there.
ReplyDeleteIt is just as if your were walking in a park and some guy opens his trech coat and shows you their naked body. Exhibitionists are sick people, they like to intimidate others by showing them their genitals, they enjoy showing themselves and seeing the looks on the face of their victims. Those people are convinced they have the right to do that, so what stops them from going further?
DeleteIf they ever get flashed like that in public, I tell my female friends to kick the guy in the balls and start screaming like mad. Bet they don't try that again.
Deleteon the contrary, i don't think she went far enough
DeleteAnonymous #1, see response above. Rape culture doesn't mean that he committed rape. It's about a culture (including our culture) being more and more accepting of the types of behaviors that lay the groundwork. If harassment is OK then naked pics must ok, then unwanted groping must be ok, then joking about passed out girls deserving to get raped must be ok, then actually raping must be ok. It's normalizing behaviors that shouldn't be normalized. We should be offended by certain things because we are humans and should be looking out for each other.
DeleteThere is a difference between rape and rape culture. Rape is the act of forcing physical, sexual contact on a person (different states have different definitions of what those types of contact are). Rape Culture is the societal behavior that supports people who rape, either by encouraging it or condoning it as ok, or even funny, or punishing people who are forced into non-consensual sexual interactions. So this was definitely a situation of rape culture rearing its ugly head.
ReplyDeleteAnyone who thinks this man's behavior is OK is part of the problem! This is sexual harassment!!
ReplyDeleteAnonymous #1, if it's something that you can get arrested for and put on the sex offenders list, no it's not okay.
ReplyDeleteIndecent exposure is a crime, right? If she didn't ask to see it, he shouldn't have sent it to her. Also, just because there are girls out there showing off their naughty bits in public (oh yeah, classy) doesn't mean this girl does.
ReplyDeleteShe should have sent the guy back a pic of one guy giving another guy a blowjob. That would have sent his tiny little head spinning.
ReplyDeleteyall dumbasses gettin all worked up bout an internet pic,prolly aint even real
ReplyDeletedoes it make any difference what size it was?
ReplyDeleteIf anyone ever sent me that, I'd report them immediately. It's not OK to send that shit to someone you don't know. I love this woman's response, and I hope his Mom read him the riot act.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous #1, I think you are his friend to have that kind of thoughts about that conversation. I agree with Uncle Raf, YOUR MOM should see what you posted so she can see what a retarded son (assuming that you are a boy from that kind of comment) she is rasing. ;)
ReplyDeletehow does someone go from "how is your day going? Is it raining in long island yet" to showing a pic of their bits and pieces. it makes no difference, in my book, whether she is a prude or a porn star, that is harassment. there is nothing in the conversation that indicated, in any way shape or form, that he might be intending to send a pic, of any kind, nor that she would be open to receiving it.
ReplyDeleteI agree 100% with the opinions expressed by Judith
Thank you.
Deletethanks Judith, very well stated
ReplyDeleteAnonymous #2, you nailed it! I totally agree with your comment. Good Job. ;)
ReplyDeleteof course it matters!!
ReplyDeleteThat is ok. A guy that I new for a very long time sent me a pic of his junk (he was married) and so was I so I sent the pic to his wife.
ReplyDeleteexactly how does it matter? what difference does it make?
ReplyDeleteSo, some moron sends a naked pic to a woman with whom he obviously must be chatting on some dating site or app. He doesn't realize he's being a moron. The woman then decides that some other woman should suffer the same fate she did because it will make her feel vindicated over said moron. And none of you has a problem with this? It's wrong for him to send the pic but not her? Double standard much?!? Sending someone a naked picture is NOT rape or even close (I will not use her buzz word). She's being just as much of an asshole. First in using the word rape solely for it's shock value. Then, in sending the same picture that so offended her to the moron's mother. The act of rape is a heinous crime. To compare some narcissistic idiot's sending of a picture to a woman he was obviously trying (however crudely) to impress with the physical act of violently forcing yourself sexually on another just shows you're insensitive to those who've suffered such a tragic defilement.
ReplyDeleteYou know, the comment says "A dating app". This was not just a phone text message. These kinds of things are where people meet, frequently for the purpose of sex. While it might have been a bit of a jump from the weather to his penis, she over-reacted.
ReplyDeleteOn top of that, she obviously knew enough about the guy, his last name, etc, to be able to find his mom on FB. So this wasn't a first time meeting, either.
While I don't condone just throwing your naked picture out there, she over-reacted. She should have just told him why she didn't like that, and stopped talking to him.
She didn't say he raped her. She said it's part of rape culture. That is the culture in which men can say and do anything, and the more they get away with, the more they try to get away with, and it escalates and builds, and then.... some guys see that all this crudity, rudeness, meanness, harassment, etc. are ok so forcing sex on a woman must be ok too. That's what rape culture is.
ReplyDeleteSeriously? ... You think it's okay? ... Imagine if someone sent a pic of their junk to your daughter or sister ..... ya know what, scratch that: YOU would probably send pictures of your junk to your sister.
ReplyDeleteYes Anonymous #2! More forwarding these pics to the parents and get this stuff cleaned up!
ReplyDeleteThe guy is wayyyyyy too forward, sick and he needs to be reported. Forwarding the conversation to the Phone Carrier and filing a report with the local police should start the ball rolling on dealing with his dumb ass. HOWEVER, forwarding this picture to his Mother is wrong. I cannot believe the sideways logic you would have to use to support sending something he sent you, which offended your senses and is a form of 'rape', to his innocent Mother. Then I see the, if anyone I don't know sent ME this stuff.... YOU don't KNOW his mother, so WHY would you even think it'd be ok? IF you really wanted to embarrass him, I believe forwarding the CONVO part to his friends and family (including his mom) would A) embarrass him and B) shame his friends in to straightening his ass out, but the picture?? Just BOOM, here mom, here's a nude picture of your son? Really? All you are going to really do is scar the mom, possibly for life. If he's an adult, what IS she really going to do? IF YOU MUST, shoot here a copy of the blurred out wiener for pete's sake...
ReplyDeleteAny woman that thinks this is no big deal, having a guy you don't know sending you naked pictures obviously have no self esteem, no pride in yourself as a woman. And not an ounce of class. And any guy that believes that a photo of his penis is a a turn on to a woman you apparently know nothing about a real woman. I'm sure that any woman you have had any luck with was a small.
ReplyDeletei don't why everyone is over reactin about this the bitch was bein a prune. maybe sendin the pic on the first day textin was a bad decision wait a few days to you get a feel of what type of person you're sendin your shit to might be wiser. lol but nothin wrong with it.
ReplyDeleteWhy are you being so hostile towards a woman you have no knowledge of. She's not a bitch, she's a bystander. She didn't ask for the cock shot, it was shoved in her face. You want some guys cock shoved in your face? I didn't think so. Also, the word is prude, not prune. A prune is a dessicated plum. Sending a shot of your junk to a woman you have no relationship with is stupid and smarmy. If she wants it, fine. That's not a problem. If it was unsolicited, that's definitely a problem. Let's turn it around. Suppose some chick you find totally disgusting sends you a crotch shot with lewd text- how are you going to respond to that? Are you cool with that, is that ok in your book? Remember your words, "nothing wrong with it". It's in the eye of the beholder. Expand your mind and mature.
DeletePlease read the numerous responses above which explain the difference between "rape" and "rape culture". The woman mentioned "rape culture" not "rape". There is a difference, so please learn about it, and join the conversation.
ReplyDeleteIndirectly, it does. The personality who thinks it's ok to send an unsolicited junk shot, who doesn't get a negative response, may well go on to further unsolicited, unwanted behavior. That could be verbal, visual or even physical. THAT is what is called "rape culture". A culture that makes all this other behavior "OK" so rape must be "OK" too.
ReplyDeletehow totally bizarre to have come across this post of a subject that is causing me some 'angst' at the moment...I'm an older woman who has just recently gotten back into the dating scene and can't believe the amt of guys that
ReplyDeletea) want and do send u their cock shots..and in the middle of a convo ffs !
b) complain that its the 1st thing girls ask for on introduction and they get all bent out of shape abt it....lol
its funny to hear about but when its not asked for DON'T do it and girls..please..at least wait till you know them a bit better...30 minutes isn't too long to wait ...have a good one and chill out abt it
The trouble is, when you join a dating site, unfortunately, you open yourself up to this sort of thing. Is it right? No. Should actions be taken, yes. Girls, be smart. Chances of finding a decent man online are slim to none. Don't expose yourself to the freaks and weirdo's. There are a million places to go to seek out good men, find one and go with it.
ReplyDeletePsst, when you put the onus on the victim to take precautions for themselves that is promoting rape culture. Instead you should be teaching men not to send unsolicited pictures of their dicks, or to stop when someone asks them to.
DeleteFor the people who are commenting, it's just a picture. For some yes it's about the picture, however for most it's about his attitude after. Instead of a simple apology and backing down, he kept on about it just being a picture, didn't she like it, stop being a prude, etc. Being on a dating site, looking for a date, that MAY lead to sex is not asking to have someone belittle you.
ReplyDeleteIf you have the option to open or reject a picture then it can't be harassment. I don't have an iphone, but I know I have the option to reject pictures on my droid. If you accept a picture from someone you don't know, you're giving up your right to claim harassment in any way. Regardless, I don't agree with sending out random cock shots to people.
ReplyDeleteIf she didn't know him, How come his name was in her phone? Get over it people its prob faked. smdh
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